He Said, She Said: What does it mean when none of a guy’s profile photos on his dating app show his face?
By Brett Davis and Christine Van
Well, the obvious conclusion to jump to is that the guy has a face that looks like a bulldog chewing a wasp. Or a dropped pie. Or a smacked ass. Take your euphemisms as you choose. But that is only one of the possibilities and so it is worth considering some of the alternatives.
First of all, it could be a fake account. I have no idea why any sentient human being would waste their time creating accounts like that (see: catphishing), but I guess everyone needs a hobby.
The other reason is that the guy might be married or in a relationship and is wanting to test the waters without being stumbled upon by someone he knows. Although if that person happens to be his current partner, questions could be asked as to why she is cruising a dating site.
Or, finally, it could be as simple as the fact that women do not have a monopoly on being self-conscious when it comes to their appearance. A female perspective, C?
Men are feral. They refuse to understand the simple etiquette of online dating, which is to post a photo of yourself. So, if you swipe right on a no-face profile then expect a dick pic coming at you. Even a self-conscious woman will have her mug up there, albeit, filtered as hell, but at least there’s a semblance of a human underneath.
A self-conscious man in Vietnam? Please introduce me to him and I’ll match him with the spotted unicorn I just met.
Look, I still think the likelihood with a no-photo guy is they just have no confidence in how they look. But here is the thing, actually read their profile. If you listen to what the guy says, you might just find him funny, charming and engaging. Then you can move on to photos. Just don’t make pictures a priority.
So, to our questioner, I would say this: Talk to the guy, get to know him first, and then see what he looks like. Sure, looks are important, it would be disingenuous to suggest otherwise, but it is a balance between looks and personality that prevails.
Finally, guys, and this goes to C’s point, here is a hard and fast rule: Never, never, ever, ever send a dick pic to a girl who has not seen your penis in real life. Just no arguments on this. A dick pic with someone you have been intimate with is kinda sexy and fun, but someone you have never been naked with is just seven kinds of creepy.
I’m not kidding around here, listen up.
I agree with B, what’s important is a balance of looks and personality; however, with so many profiles to swipe through men should want to improve their chances. He’s got a face like a bulldog? I love dogs, I have two. Even a dropped pie gets a second chance. Remember the five-second rule? There’s a face for everyone and, of course, no one can tell from a photo alone if they’re the one for you but it’s a good start.
Guys, here’s some solid advice: Women love a confident man so, go ahead, turn the camera around and take that selfie (pose with a cute pup or kitten; this will guarantee a swipe, trust me).
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